No one can live by the light of God's Word until they discover it in the Bible, so study each verse listed as you read all 33 reasons to say no to divorce. More and more Christians are waking to the truth that the marriage they are in THIS MINUTE is the marriage they are to stay in for a lifetime (I Cor. 7:27a).

Divorce is like a shoot-out between Siamese twins.Whoever thinks they are going to "win" by divorcing is going to lose! The marriage a Christian is in THIS MINUTE is the marriage they are to stay in for a lifetime (I Cor. 7:27a). MARRIAGE IS A COVENANT RELATIONSHIP "for as long as the two shall live" - not simply a temporary convenience that fits a married couple until one or both finds themself unhappy with their spouse (Matthew 19:5-6; Mark 10:7-9).

1. Getting a divorce (covenant breaking) is a sin-filled act of attempting to break the marriage covenant God has absolutely formed when any Christian marries (Mt. 19:6).

2. Covenant breaking (divorcing one's spouse) is caused by a hard unbelieving heart (Mt. 19:8), and is an extreme act of selfishness. This act alone can cost a person their soul (Mt.16:24-27).

3. Covenant breaking is willful and absolute disobedience to God (Rom. 12:14,17-21) and therefore contagious (Mt.19:7-8). It says to everyone, "This is how to deal with a marriage when it ceases to provide happiness." Gross sin is always at the very root of every divorce (Rom. 6:16).

4. A covenant breaker shows an absolute lack of faith in Jesus Christ -- refusing to give God any further room to work in their marriage (Heb. 11:1).The moment one allows their faith to be diminished in one area, there is an extremely human tendency for them to allow it to be diminished in all areas of their life. (Heb. 11:6).

5. A covenant breaker breaks God's first and second highest commandments: "Love God with all your heart...and love your neighbor as yourself (Mt. 22:36:40). Who is a divorcing person loving by divorcing their closest "neighbor" - their spouse -- in total disobedience to God? (Mal. 2:16a)

6. Divorce threatens friendship with Christ because it breaks His command to "lay down one's life for another (John 15:12-14). Only a hard-hearted, totally self-centered, unbelieving person would risk their friendship with Jesus Christ.

7. Divorce gives a full invitation to the devil to break in, rob, kill, and destroy the "abundant life" Christ came to give every Christian (John 10:10).

8. Covenant breaking causes a person to cease being a living sacrifice for God and to stop following God's plan for their life (Rom. 12:1-2). Verse 2 says that only by becoming a living sacrifice will a person find God's perfect will for their life.

9. A covenant breaker loses their Christian character because they fail to understand how God builds character. James 1:2-4 describes why God allows trials in life -- often including unhappiness in marriage -- as part of God's working on a person to make them complete (v. 4 - spiritually mature). The covenant breaker becomes incomplete in life.

10. Covenant breakers don't care what God thinks about what they are doing. If they did, they wouldn't do it. God HATES divorce (Mal. 2:16; Luke 6:46-49). God doesn't hate divorcees, because some of them are victims of divorce and legally fail when they try to stop their divorce. But God HATES divorce. He knows the hurt, the torment, the pain, the agony that is going to come as a result of any divorce.

11. Divorce completely breaks a husband's spiritual authority and protection for his wife (1 Cor. 11: 3) If a husband is the covenant breaker he will short-circuit the power of his prayer life and hinder God from being able to answer his prayers (I Pet. 3:7; Mal. 2:13-14). If a wife is the covenant breaker she will lose the spiritual protection God has provided for her. The covenant breaking husband or wife will come under all penalties listed in this list of reasons not to divorce.

13. The divorce of one's parents greatly damages a young person's concept of Jesus Christ as the One who answers prayer or can perform miracles (Mt. 24:12; Mark 9:42).

14. Divorce almost always makes children and teenagers angry as they see their parents walk out on each other (Eph. 6:4).

15. 80% of children from divorced homes get divorces from their marriages too. 80% - that's four out of every five!. Knowing that, how could any parent really "love" Jesus Christ and their offspring but willfully divorce? (Prov. 22:6; Mt. 18:6)

16. The divorced wife runs a great risk of losing terribly financially. Far more than half of divorced wives receive no alimony or child support (I Tim. 5:8). Divorced husbands often find themselves with a multitude of new bills they hadn't expected for everything from restaurants to every other domestic thing the wife had taken care of until their break-up. It often fouls up credit. One divorced spouse frequently gets stuck with the other spouse's bills. Any children obviously suffer from these situations

16. Divorce usually divides the loyalties of children or teenagers and makes them feel like emotional ping-pong balls, bouncing back and forth to each of their parents, or losing the parent who walked out (Mt. 18:5-6). Only extremely hard-hearted people would create this situation for their kids of any age.

17. Divorce causes a death to personal goals (Prov. 29:18). A divorced person loses their former major purposes in life. No longer are they a wife or husband, they are at best only a part-time mom or dad.

18. Divorce causes a loss of sexual intimacy. Who is the divorced person going to have sex with after their husband or wife is no longer their partner? The sex drive of a divorced person is usually dissatisfied and the devil works overtime to lead them into adultery (Mt. 5:32; Eph. 5:5-6; Rev. 21:8; 22:15).

19. Because of the truth of #18, the divorced person becomes "dangerous" in the minds of many other married people who will purposely avoid them (I Thess. 5:22).

20. Lost men will often see a divorced woman as sexually vulnerable and try to prove they are (James 1:14-15).

21. Divorced people often carry their emotional scars into other situations including a second marriage. 70 % of all second marriages end in divorce. 80% if both spouses were previously married (Mt. 19:8-9).

24. Divorce usually robs the husband or wife of any further close relationship with their in-laws (Luke 11:17).

25. Divorce discourages the divorced couples pastor. When he sees the destruction of families in his church, there comes a terrible ripping at him and often a feeling of failure (Heb. 13:17).

26. Divorce causes a root of bitterness to spring up in many other people who take sides with one or the other divorced spouse (Heb. 12:15-17; Mt. 6:14-15).

28. Divorce casts a dark shadow on all relationships by breaking the most important human relationship on earth. Many divorced people lose their closest Christian married friends because they usually did things with them as couples (Heb. 10:23-25).

29. Divorce often causes a person to feel like a failure because they couldn't work out the problems in their marriage (Mt. 22:36-40).

31. Nearly all covenant breakers become constant liars in order to cover the truth of what caused them to divorce. Unrepented liars are on their way to hell (Rev. 21:8; 22:15).

32. Divorce often shortens life, especially for men. Single men die an average of ten years sooner than married men (Gen. 2:18; Rom. 6:23a).

33. Because of #27 and #29 the covenant breaker often finds lost friends or shallow church-goers who have no qualms about divorce in spite of all the problems listed here. This can cause a divorced person's lifestyle to deteriorate rapidly (I Cor. 15:33).

34. Divorced Christians are often biblically disqualified from leadership in their church (I Tim. 3:4-5). Divorce makes people single again in the church. Many churches don't know how to meet the needs of single adults today.

"I call heaven and earth to witness against you today that I have set before you life and death, the blessing and the curse.